As I was reading other blogs today, I came across one author who wrote a list of things she'd learned after her first year of marriage. As I read that, I started thinking about things that I have learned in the 19 months David and I have been married... They have been wonderful months, but I have had to make some adjustments -- being married has a way of bringing out some personality traits that one doesn't know she has.
Here are a few things that I've learned:
- David is exactly as I expected him to be. He's sweet, never gets angry, is very rational, and hugs away a lot of problems. He's patient with me when I'm being "emotional" and "nit-picky," but he is the type of husband who's willing to tell me what I need to work on. For that, I am extremely thankful. I needed someone like that, and the Lord blessed me with exactly what I needed.
- I am not exactly as I expected myself to be. I have a lot of selfishness that I wouldn't have admitted before getting married. I like to have things my own way, and I don't take criticism all that well; with the Lord's help, I'm working on that! I think the Lord has helped me since we were married, but I certainly have a long way to go.
- It's okay to disagree. When we were first married, I thought it was a terrible ordeal if David and I had different opinions on something little. Now I realize it's okay. It makes for good discussions (not arguments!) and great opportunities to rethink our positions. NOTE: I am not talking about major doctrinal issues. Just little things.
- I love David even more than I thought possible. Before we got married, I thought I loved David so much. Now, I realize that there's something that he does every day that causes me to love him more than I did the day before.
If you'd like to post on your blog what you've learned from your marriage, please leave a comment to let me know so I can check it out!
On another note, one of the "new" fish (Edward) is looking suspiciously like he's about to take a trip down the toilet. He's been floating up to the top of the water, and I'll tap on the glass to see if he moves and he does. I've got a feeling he's not going to be with us much longer.